I was talking to an old friend last night and that’s when I realized something… he has very little time in his life for a relationship but he would truly like to be in one and he wants to share everything in his world with someone special. Whereas I have all the time in the world (although it doesn’t feel that way lately), and someone very special to share it with, but because of his job he is frequently not home!
It’s funny how these things happen…
DH’s amount of travelling changes frequently throughout the year, but at this particular moment I find it excessive. Long story short, from mid-September until the holidays in December he will be away far more than he will be home to say the least (insert upside-down frown here). Frustrating? You bet!
I took my cues on how to be a work widow from a very good friend of mine who was going through this when we first met. Without her, I don’t think I would have been able to handle all of this… especially not in the beginning. I was thinking about this the other day when something interesting popped into my head. When her other half would travel for work, she would frequently go and stay with her parents at their house even though she had a home of her own right next to work and everything! Back then, this was the only thing about her ways of coping that I didn’t really understand. Maybe, in part, because I am not close to my family? I don’t know, I just always thought it was a bit strange but I never said anything to her about it (well, I guess she will know now lol). Anyway, the point is… I get it now! I really, really, do!
Being alone sucks! Two cats and two fish don’t make up for human contact! The only problem for me is that I am also a really bad guest when I am alone! I need to be in my own environment to feel comfortable, especially if I am under stress. Or I need to be with DH – wherever he and I are, as long as we are together, feels like home (awe). But when we are apart, the only home that feels like HOME to me is MY home. I would rather play host than guest I suppose. And you know what? Maybe I should start! At least until we have kids… because I am convinced that when we do this will no longer be an issue for me. I need to start having sleepovers or something. We now have two actual guestrooms and two sofas to choose from as well, so why not? Right?
Any takers?
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
Ahhh...
It looks like there will be palm trees in my near distant future!!! I can't wait!!! Please, please, please work out!!!
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Four Little Miracles!
I first saw this story on Bethenny and knew I had to share. It's incredible!
Infertility Struggles Brings Sisters Together
By: Ellie Merritt (edited, full story here)
Millions of women across the country face the same heartbreak of infertility. They yearn for a baby and struggle to get pregnant.
It's a pain 33-year old Annie Johnston knows well.
"I think every girl that wants to have a family just assumes that she's going to get pregnant…it was just heartbreaking for us and we just always had bad news to share," said Johnston who struggled with infertility for five years and had turned to reproductive specialists for help.
... Johnston and her husband Joby tried fertility treatments, including in vitro fertilization twice. Still, after years of trying, the loving, young couple was childless. Annie hadn't even had one positive pregnancy test in all the years she had been trying to conceive.
... Annie didn't have the baby she had hoped for, but she did have an older sister to turn to who had watched Annie struggle through infertility.
... Chrissy, already having two children of her own, made a loving, self-less offer to her sister.
"I just want you to know that I'd be more than happy to carry if that would help you to have a family," said Chrissy. She was offering to be a gestational carrier and running out of options, Annie took her up on that offer.
... Doctors implanted embryos in Chrissy, and since Annie was on the same cycle, they decided to implant embryos in her too, just to give it one more try.
... Four embryos, two sisters -- hoping for just one baby. Then, they got the call from the doctor.
"She started off by saying she had double great news and we just gasped," Annie said.
Both the women were pregnant.
At the first ultrasound for both women, Annie and Chrissy heard heartbeats of hope. First, there was one heartbeat. Then another. And another. And another.
Four heartbeats -- four babies -- in all...
Infertility Struggles Brings Sisters Together
By: Ellie Merritt (edited, full story here)
Millions of women across the country face the same heartbreak of infertility. They yearn for a baby and struggle to get pregnant.
It's a pain 33-year old Annie Johnston knows well.
"I think every girl that wants to have a family just assumes that she's going to get pregnant…it was just heartbreaking for us and we just always had bad news to share," said Johnston who struggled with infertility for five years and had turned to reproductive specialists for help.
... Johnston and her husband Joby tried fertility treatments, including in vitro fertilization twice. Still, after years of trying, the loving, young couple was childless. Annie hadn't even had one positive pregnancy test in all the years she had been trying to conceive.
... Annie didn't have the baby she had hoped for, but she did have an older sister to turn to who had watched Annie struggle through infertility.
... Chrissy, already having two children of her own, made a loving, self-less offer to her sister.
"I just want you to know that I'd be more than happy to carry if that would help you to have a family," said Chrissy. She was offering to be a gestational carrier and running out of options, Annie took her up on that offer.
... Doctors implanted embryos in Chrissy, and since Annie was on the same cycle, they decided to implant embryos in her too, just to give it one more try.
... Four embryos, two sisters -- hoping for just one baby. Then, they got the call from the doctor.
"She started off by saying she had double great news and we just gasped," Annie said.
Both the women were pregnant.
At the first ultrasound for both women, Annie and Chrissy heard heartbeats of hope. First, there was one heartbeat. Then another. And another. And another.
Four heartbeats -- four babies -- in all...
Thursday, October 17, 2013
11 Times 'Sex And The City' Actually Got It Right
Borrowed from Huffington Post - written by Leigh Weingus
As the New Yorkers of 2013 choose Brooklyn over Manhattan, cheap beer over Cosmos and sales over Soho, "Sex And The City" is consistently slammed for its unrealistic plot lines and false expectations.
We get it, and we even get why Carrie Bradshaw is considered kind of annoying -- she did say she would rather read Vogue than eat -- but there were a few times when Carrie and her friends hit the nail on the head.
As the New Yorkers of 2013 choose Brooklyn over Manhattan, cheap beer over Cosmos and sales over Soho, "Sex And The City" is consistently slammed for its unrealistic plot lines and false expectations.
We get it, and we even get why Carrie Bradshaw is considered kind of annoying -- she did say she would rather read Vogue than eat -- but there were a few times when Carrie and her friends hit the nail on the head.
- "Friendships don't magically last 40 years. You have to invest in them."
- "The universe may not always play fair, but at least it's got a hell of a sense of humor."
- "You and I are like that red wall. It's a good idea in theory, but somehow it doesn't quite work."
- "Life gives you lots of chances to screw up which means you have just as many chances to get it right."
- "Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us and understand us and kiss our three heads and make it all better."
- "As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, would, should, buckle up and just keep going."
- "You shouldn't have to sacrifice who you are just because somebody else has a problem with it."
- "Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe, you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be."
- "No matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you'll never get through it without your friends."
- "Eventually all the pieces fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason."
- "The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you that you love, well, that's just fabulous."
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Co-Worker Friend Turned Foe
Ugh! So frustrated… I need advice please!
I have this co-worker/friend that “burned his bridges” long ago (over a year), not only with myself but with other co-workers as well, if not ALL of them. In recent months this co-worker seems to be trying to make amends with each and every one of us, but none of us are buying it from what I can see. However, I can only speak for myself.
Those of you who know me personally know that I can be pretty clear about what I want without really saying a word and this is where I am stuck.
We are co-workers, if I could even call us that seeing as we don’t really work together at all. To many we would have seemed like friends I guess, but I would have considered it to be more of a co-worker friendship or an occasional outside of work acquaintance at most. But that was all in the past, long ago. We have not really talked to one another for over a year now and many things have changed. But now, this person has been coming to my office more in the last couple of months than ever before (even when we WERE friends or whatever) and has been driving me crazy! They think that after all this time has passed, not to mention bridges burned that I don’t really want to get into, they can just come in… close my door… sit down… and start chatting about my personal life with me like nothing has happened?
I have not allowed myself to talk “personal” and I have kept everything I’ve said related only to the job. I have been short, busy and dismissive each time. I have blocked and deleted this person from Facebook. I do not answer the phone when they call. I do not include this person on lunch invitations or anything else I involve other co-workers in. I thought that I had made myself pretty clear! But this person keeps coming back to try again and I am NOT interested at ALL!
A part of me wants to pick up the phone, send an email or confront this person face to face… but the rest of me says don’t waste your time, just keep doing what you’ve been doing and eventually they will get it. But will they? I know that this is not a relationship that I wish to salvage in the least, but we WILL cross paths so I would like things to be civil at least. I think. Maybe. I don’t know… help!
I have this co-worker/friend that “burned his bridges” long ago (over a year), not only with myself but with other co-workers as well, if not ALL of them. In recent months this co-worker seems to be trying to make amends with each and every one of us, but none of us are buying it from what I can see. However, I can only speak for myself.
Those of you who know me personally know that I can be pretty clear about what I want without really saying a word and this is where I am stuck.
We are co-workers, if I could even call us that seeing as we don’t really work together at all. To many we would have seemed like friends I guess, but I would have considered it to be more of a co-worker friendship or an occasional outside of work acquaintance at most. But that was all in the past, long ago. We have not really talked to one another for over a year now and many things have changed. But now, this person has been coming to my office more in the last couple of months than ever before (even when we WERE friends or whatever) and has been driving me crazy! They think that after all this time has passed, not to mention bridges burned that I don’t really want to get into, they can just come in… close my door… sit down… and start chatting about my personal life with me like nothing has happened?
I have not allowed myself to talk “personal” and I have kept everything I’ve said related only to the job. I have been short, busy and dismissive each time. I have blocked and deleted this person from Facebook. I do not answer the phone when they call. I do not include this person on lunch invitations or anything else I involve other co-workers in. I thought that I had made myself pretty clear! But this person keeps coming back to try again and I am NOT interested at ALL!
A part of me wants to pick up the phone, send an email or confront this person face to face… but the rest of me says don’t waste your time, just keep doing what you’ve been doing and eventually they will get it. But will they? I know that this is not a relationship that I wish to salvage in the least, but we WILL cross paths so I would like things to be civil at least. I think. Maybe. I don’t know… help!
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
Open Letter: To My Hair Dryer
To my evil, possessed, hair dryer… I hate you!
When I left the house yesterday, I thought it was going to be just like any other day… but you proved me wrong! So wrong!
Like every other morning, I got up and had my shower and then proceeded to dry my hair. When I was done, I turned you off and put you down on the floor in my office where you always are. Afterwards, I got dressed, did my make-up and went downstairs to feed the cats etc… and because DH is away I was actually 10 minutes early! I left the house, happy to be early, and went off to work.
After work I met up with a friend for dinner so I wasn’t home at my usual time. Actually, it was about 9pm by the time he dropped me off, and from the outside of my house nothing looked out of place. The lights were off, the big ugly spider was still on my front stairs, and the garbage can was outside reminding me I had to clean the cat litter today.
But inside… this was another story, wasn’t it?
When I went in I heard the sound of a motor running. The cats were running around meowing and one of them kept pawing at my office door. That was when I realized it was coming from inside my office. Was it the aquarium filter blowing up? Was my computer freaking out? What was it?
As I went up the stairs my house felt very hot. I opened my office door with hesitation and what did I find? A steamy room, a hot floor, and you… in the on position, blowing away! I picked you up and turned you off but you were hot to touch. Even my aquarium was warm! How long had you been on? Had you been on since morning? How did you turn on? The door was closed… was someone in the house?
After searching every single room and closet in my house looking for an intruder like a mad woman, I started to look online for reasons why you would do this. I found everything from scientific explanations to fluke to the paranormal. Whatever it was, it seems the best thing to do was unplug you so I did. I plugged you back in this morning for a bit and it seems like 2/3 of your coils are no longer working and you burnt yourself out in the process of freaking me out too. Why would you do that?
So, whether you were trying to scare me or just trying to commit hair dryer suicide I believe you are possessed. You may have run up my Hydro bill, but at least you didn’t burn the house down! I don’t know what I ever did to you to deserve this, but I know what I am going to do to you now! Next Tuesday, garbage night, will be your last night in my house. Your time is up Mr. Hair Dryer!
Good-bye Vidal Sassoon model VS773F… you will not be missed!
When I left the house yesterday, I thought it was going to be just like any other day… but you proved me wrong! So wrong!
Like every other morning, I got up and had my shower and then proceeded to dry my hair. When I was done, I turned you off and put you down on the floor in my office where you always are. Afterwards, I got dressed, did my make-up and went downstairs to feed the cats etc… and because DH is away I was actually 10 minutes early! I left the house, happy to be early, and went off to work.
After work I met up with a friend for dinner so I wasn’t home at my usual time. Actually, it was about 9pm by the time he dropped me off, and from the outside of my house nothing looked out of place. The lights were off, the big ugly spider was still on my front stairs, and the garbage can was outside reminding me I had to clean the cat litter today.
But inside… this was another story, wasn’t it?
When I went in I heard the sound of a motor running. The cats were running around meowing and one of them kept pawing at my office door. That was when I realized it was coming from inside my office. Was it the aquarium filter blowing up? Was my computer freaking out? What was it?
As I went up the stairs my house felt very hot. I opened my office door with hesitation and what did I find? A steamy room, a hot floor, and you… in the on position, blowing away! I picked you up and turned you off but you were hot to touch. Even my aquarium was warm! How long had you been on? Had you been on since morning? How did you turn on? The door was closed… was someone in the house?
After searching every single room and closet in my house looking for an intruder like a mad woman, I started to look online for reasons why you would do this. I found everything from scientific explanations to fluke to the paranormal. Whatever it was, it seems the best thing to do was unplug you so I did. I plugged you back in this morning for a bit and it seems like 2/3 of your coils are no longer working and you burnt yourself out in the process of freaking me out too. Why would you do that?
So, whether you were trying to scare me or just trying to commit hair dryer suicide I believe you are possessed. You may have run up my Hydro bill, but at least you didn’t burn the house down! I don’t know what I ever did to you to deserve this, but I know what I am going to do to you now! Next Tuesday, garbage night, will be your last night in my house. Your time is up Mr. Hair Dryer!
Good-bye Vidal Sassoon model VS773F… you will not be missed!
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